I was born and grew up in the province of Benguet but stayed permanently here in Batangas because our business is here. I also love the good weather, Hindi gaanong mainit hindi rin gaanong malamig, kumbaga eksakto lang.
And I say, Batangas is one of the provinces that still practice old traditions and culture. There are lots of beliefs that people here practice.
We lived in a community full of traditions, almost everybody believes in superstitious beliefs. I am very uncomfortable because my parents never taught us any of these, maybe because my mother is a Christian.
But I respect other’s belief and culture, iyon kasi ang pinapaniwalaan nila. At naniniwala ako na kung ano ang pinapaniwalaan mo nagkakatotoo sa iyo. Kaya minsan nag-iingat di ako sa mga pinapaniwalaan ko.
Disclaimer: This is only my views, observation and opinion; it does not reflect the opinion of my love ones.
Wearing Black in Pregnancy is a Big “No, No”
One day, my husband’s aunts saw me wearing black dress; she approached me and said, “buntis ka di ba, Bakit ka nakaitim?”
Nagulat ako dahil wala naman mali sa suot ko.
“Anong mali? Alam mo ba pag buntis bawal magsuot ng itim? susunod sa iyo ang masamang espiritu, baka kunin ang anak mo.
Though I don’t believe in this, I felt a little nervous. At the back of my mind, I rebuked the curse and prayed, because my belief in my creator – my God in heaven is more powerful than any other superstitious beliefs on earth.
Pero simula noon hindi na ako nagsuot ng itim while pregnant. Though I don’t believe in that, I don’t want to disrespect what they believe in. Hindi naman ako killjoy.
Never put money in a piggy bank or in a jar
This maybe the weirdest and craziest belief I’ve encountered.
I was then carrying a piggy bank when my neighbor saw me. He rebuked me and said, “bawal mag alkansya dahil para mo na ding pinaghahandaan ang masamang mangyayari sa iyo.
It’s weird. Maganda nga dapat iyon dahil pinag-iipunan mo panganganak mo pero iba pala sa kanila. Parang pinaghahandaan mo ang masamang mangyayari sa iyo..
This made me freaked-out. I think it’s unfair but I obeyed.
I’ve been savings in a piggy bank for so long, it didn’t make me rich but at least it taught me discipline, – discipline in saving. Everything that I save with that piggy bank, I invested in business. For me, that’s not bad.
According to them, putting money in a piggy bank will open the doors of bad luck; it seems that you are preparing for emergencies to come, for example, the death of your child. This is the weirdest belief but they truly believe it.
Kala ko kapag buntis lang bawal, kaya itinuloy ko pagkatapos kong manganak, pero lifetime pala bawal.. haha!
Nagkwento iyong kapitbahay ko, nung hindi daw sya nagiipon sa piggy bank, hindi daw sakitin ang kanyang anak, pero simula nung naglalagay sa alkansya buwan buwan na daw dinadala sa ospital.
Pero ang pag iipon sa bangko okay lang daw, pero hindi nga din daw makaipon. Sa kunti nga hindi makaipon sa malaki pa kaya.
Kaya naniniwala ako na kung ano ang pinaniniwalaan mo, nagkakatotoo sa iyo.
Eating Black foods or drinking black coffee is bad
“If you want your baby to have a fair skin, don’t ate eggplants, grapes, or everything black, don’t drink black coffee as well”. I was laughing because I thought our neighbor was kidding but she’s serious. She even mocked me and said, “Stupid, you knew nothing”.
My friend strictly followed but I didn’t mind because eggplant was my favorite food during my pregnancy. The result, our babies have both fair-skinned.
Pero nung madalas mag-convulsion ang anak ko, isinisi nila sa talong. Matigas daw kasi ang ulo ko. Alam kung magkakaganun nga pero hindi ako nakinig.
My mother-in-law only allowed me to take a bath after 10 days of delivery
My doctor’s advice is to take a bath 1 to 2 days after giving birth but since I’m with my mother-in-law, I have to follow her rules. 10 days of no bath is something “fishy”, I felt the heat and smell but I’m with her, she takes care of me. I have to follow rules to be at peace with her.
According to her, she wants to make sure all of my pores are closed colds could not enter my body. Well, she had some points.
The Nails of a cat
The first time I cut my baby’s nail, my mother-in-law took it, then cut a cat’s nail, wrapped them together and buried it inside the coconut tree.
Just want to laugh because I think it’s craziness but she really believed in it.
Her explanation made me speechless.
Pinagsama din daw niya ang kuko ng kanyang pamangkin at kuko ng kanilang pusa dati at ibinaon sa ilalim ng puno ng niyog. Ngayon daw, mabilis tumakbo ng kanyang pamangkin. Parang pusa kung umakyat. Hindi marinig ang yabag. Wheeww!
Strong Belief in Faith Healers
This is just my observation and opinion. It does not reflect the opinions of my family.
Some of the people here believed in faith healers than in prayer and medicine. If their kids or if they are sick, they first consult a faith healer before going to the hospital.
Although Catholic sila, pinapaniwalaan pa rin nila ang old traditions. Talaga sigurong ganun. Kung ano ang kinalakhan mo yun na ang pinapaniwalaan mo.
When my eldest son suffered from 3-days flu, my husband insisted on bringing him to faith healers but I disagree, I want to bring him to the hospital. Kaya dinala namin sa pinakamalapit na ospital pero hindi siya naadmit dahil walang bakanteng kama. Sabi niya siya naman daw masusunod kaya dinala naming sa faith healer.
Marami ang ritwals, pero hindi gumaling. I think because my mind doesn’t believe in it.
Marami din akong kilala na hindi na nagpapaospital dahil gumagaling daw sila sa tulong ng faith healers and they never bring their kids to the hospital. Yun kasi ang paniniwala nila.
I respect their belief. But as Christian, God is my healer, I believe in prayer more than anything else. Prayer is the most powerful healer, if you believe and not doubt. It can move mountains. It can turn the impossible to possible.
Don’t attend a funeral when you are pregnant
The soul of the dead will follow you if you go to a wake.
When I was pregnant, my husband didn’t allow me to visit the wake of our aunt because of the above reason.
According to him, pregnant women are over-sensitive and could be easily spotted by bad spirits.
Pero sa province namin, hindi rin allowed and buntis sa burol. Pero dahil Christian ang mama ko, walang bawal kanya. At yun ang pagpapalaki niya sa amin, na ‘wag lahat paniniwalaan dahil hindi lahat totoo. Alamin kung ano ang makakasama at makakabuti sa inyo.
A jar full of coins
Every New Year’s Eve, my husband’s cousin always fills her jar with coins. That’s her ritual for 7 years now. She believed that a jar full of money will open the doors of increase and harvest.
She believed that her ritual made her a success.
Sabi nila wala namang mawawala sa iyo kung gawin mo di ba? Pero sa personal kong opinion ito, merong mawawala – your faith! Minsan nagcocontradict sa paniniwala mo. Kaya nababawasan ang paniniwala mo sa Diyos. Pero Hindi mo rin pwedeng ipilit sa iba ang paniniwala mo, kaya nga respect na lang para peaceful.
“Give me a number” game
This is the belief I cannot understand. Some believed that if a child or a “special” person will give you number, you will win in lottery.
Pagdating ko dito sa Batangas, nakita ko iyong isang mama, tinatanong yung maliit na bata, “anong numero mo?” So si maliit nagbigay din, 3 daw at 23. Si mama dinukot si bulsa, naglabas ng 50, tinawag si kubrador, 3×23 daw. Hindi ko na alam kung tumama kasi hindi na ako nagtanong.
Pero base sa nakita ko, naniniwala sila sa power ng numerong bigay ng bata at mga taong wala sa katinuan. Maswerte daw magbigay ang mga yun ng numero.
Pero what’s the point? The little boy knew nothing about lottery you’re talking about. How can he make you win? Kaya blockbuster talaga ang lottery at STL ditto sa Batangas. Hindi malulugi ang may-ari.
The power of saliva
This is the belief well practice here in Batangas. Almost everybody do it.
When I was still in Cavite, A guy from Batangas went to my room and asks me to put a little saliva on his tummy.
With a sarcastic voice I said, “Why should I?”
But he insisted.
But I didn’t give in to his request. Finally he went away.
Later did I know that it was really a practice here in Batangas.
The power of “laway”. Halimbawa, kapag ang bata bago mo pa lang nakita at na-cute-an ka. Lawayan mo muna ang tiyan o noo, baka daw kasi maghabol (mabati).
Minsan naniniwala din ako, ilang beses din kasi akong nabati – sumakit ang ulo, nagsusuka at masama talaga pakiramdam pero sa Benguet, words are enough to rebuke the curse.
I don’t believe in this practice but I do it sometimes if they request me to do so. I don’t want them to think that I’m the reason of their child’s fever or sickness.
Though I don’t follow these beliefs, I don’t judge them. I respect people who follow because it was their culture. Who am I to judge anyway? We all have beliefs, let’s respect one another.
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