“When you love, it is not you to be understood but you to understand; not for you to take but for you to be taken; to listen not to dictate; to sacrifice and not to demand; not to count or measure but to LOVE“
1.Heaven and earth relationship
“Horizon is where heaven and earth meet: A love story that crossed boundaries.” – Diana Williams
This is a relationship that is bound by age and status in life. Relationships like these had so many complications, – from oppositions to denials to criticisms to judgments from families, friends and love ones.
Example is the “Cinderella love story”. Although Cinderella is a fairy tale story, it has still the connotation that heaven and earth can collide. It gives hope to the loveless.
Another example is when a rich guy is in love with a poor lady. A CEO or president of a company was in love with his secretary, or a prince with his maidservant.
What is your reaction when you see couples like these? According to research, they were often judge, accusing the poor ones as gold digger. Parents of the rich guy also hinder the relationship.
2. Long distance relationship
“It is a strong emotional commitment to another who is far away and beyond physical access.” – Urban dictionary
You are in love with each other despite the distance, Love stories that are built by Word Wide Web and Social media. This requires trust, honesty, maturity and strong affection, without it, the LOVE will surely collapse.
It takes time and effort to make this relationship last forever. This is a relationship some say is doomed to fail. One factor that can affect the relationship is infidelity. I have seen lots of Overseas Filipino Workers (OFW) families fall apart due to unfaithfulness. I had a boyfriend when I decide to work in Hongkong for a two year-contract.
He made a promise that’s too good to be true. After 5 months of working abroad, he forgot his promises and said was in love with someone else. After that, He was nowhere to be found, and no closure whatsoever. But one thing is sure, he’s quitting the relationship.
I was hopeless and broke, I cried a lot. Many questions popped up, I don’t know why he cheated but I have to accept it. I can’t do anything after all, we were miles apart.
3. Mutual understanding (MU)
Two people who are obviously like each other, but not committed to a relationship.
It was a black and white kind of relationship. Some called it as an “assuming relationship”. You don’t know how to put yourself in because your judgment might be wrong. It was a relationship so confusing. He never said I love you but his action speaks as if he was in love with you.
4. Best friend Forever (BFF)
You are in love with your best friend but decided to hide the feeling because you might destroy the friendship. You’re so afraid of losing him forever if the relationship doesn’t work.
“Have you ever loved someone and they had absolutely no idea whatsoever, and sat around and watched him fall for someone else”.
5. Stagnant Relationship or relationship is going circle
You are boyfriend and girlfriend for 10 years but no plan for marriage yet, either the boy is afraid of a greater responsibility or he was afraid of a marriage, he taught that marriage is putting him into jail forever!
You want to marry and have kids but you are still waiting for a proposal. You are confused on the status of your relationship.
Whatever relationship “status” you are in now, always remember 1 Corinthians 13:7, it says, “love always protects, always trust, always hopes, always persevere”.
Whatever status you are in now. I hope the above article resonates.
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