Train a child in the way he should go, so when he is old he will not turn away from it – Proverbs 22:6.
How to Raise my Kids and bring them closer to God is on top of my list.
As parent, my kid’s future is valuable and important. To teach them early with responsibilities is my greatest goal. I want them to live a normal and independent life most especially when we are gone. Though money is equally important, it should not be the center of our family. We have to balance everything well.
I discipline my kids well because if they go a wrong way, it means I failed as a parent. What is wealth and power if your kids are not well-disciplined? They will eventually splurge all the money that you have.
Discipline is not a punishment but strengthening them to be more mature and responsible person.
Below are my top 10 discipline strategies that worked for my kids. It came from Vic and Avelyn Garcia from their book, Unleash the Highest Potential of your Child.
1. Start and End your day right
Embrace your kids, Say good morning or good night to them. Teach them early with courtesy so they will adopt it when they get old.
I taught my sons – 3 and 6 years – old Filipino courtesies like “Mano” (bless) and “Po and opo”, because I want them to embrace Filipino culture until they’re old and teach them as well to their kids.
Because I’ve seen a lot of students now forgot the old Filipino courtesy tradition, saying “po and opo” when having a conversation with the old, and worse, they talk to their moms and dads like their younger siblings, they have no respect.
2. Help your child to come-up with vision board.
Vision board is a tool used to help clarify, concentrate and maintain focus on a specific life goal. Literally, a sort of board on which you display images that represent whatever you want to be (makeavisionboard.com).
Every successful people teach their kids to be responsible for their future. I have my own vision board. This board let me see clearly how my future looks like.
3. Date your Kids Regularly
Sunday is our family day. After church, we make sure we play with them. Time flies quickly, a mom’s greatest fear is to lose the opportunity to play with her kids. Most of millennial kids today prefer to be with their friends than to be with their parents.
I will not allow that to happen. I will teach them early how important a dinner time with family is.
4. Don’t give your them too much privacy
Too much privacy is dangerous these days, Pornography is one click away. They might expose themselves. Do not put laptop or desktop computer in your kid’s room.
I’ve once seen an 8-year old boy watching pornography in computer shop. It’s sad to see that pornography and sex videos are rampant these days that even a little boy had an access to it.
The Bible says, “Teach your young, so when they are old they will not depart from it”.
5. Do not allow sleepover unless school-mandated activities
Some kids deceive their parents telling them it was a school project but actually a friend’s night out. Check their schedule more often. Observe their friends; make sure they are good influence.
“Do not be misled, Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians 15:33).
6. Do not allow your children to play violent computer games.
According to research, here are the top 10 negative effects of video games:
- An increase in emotional disorder symptoms
- An increase in and behavioral disorder symptoms.
- Decline in verbal memory performance
- Somatic complaints
- Attention problems such as hyperactivity, ADD or ADHD
- Detrimental school performance
- Family interaction problems
- Significant reduced amount of slow-wave (REM) sleep
- Modifications in visual selective attention.
- Playing violent video games is a significant risk factor for later physically aggressive behavior.
7. Teach your Kids to live without you
Teach your kids to be independent so when you’re gone, they will stand still. Spoiling your kids will just make them weak and dependent.
We face death every day, so the only way to make them stand alone is to teach and give them responsibilities at an early age.
8. Teach them about Physical and Financial wellness
Health is wealth. If you have no time for exercise, you will have more time for illness in the future. Eat healthy and your body will reward you in a long run.
Teach them to save money early. It will avoid future financial disasters. Teach them to budget their money well.
9. Teach them the power of words
Words are powerful. It has the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21).Don’t curse them when they made mistakes. It will create bad psychological effect on them.
Good affirmation is the best. Pray for them and declare that a bright future is waiting for them.
10. Teach them to Trust and obey God
This is the best thing you could ever teach your kids – to obey and trust the LORD.
When you offer yourself to God, He will protect and guide you in your journey. He will give the right people around you to help you finish your race.
Hope this article helped. Please comment below for further info and discipline tips.